Dreams of Cheating

BY Layne Sheridan 2022-10-11 Modified date: 2022-10-11

My boyfriend cheated on me!

Sometimes having a dream about being cheated on can make it feel so real that you go ahead and accuse your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or other close relationship of being unfaithful. These are disturbing and unsettling dreams. Your relationship is frequently called into question as a result. The majority of the time, dreams about infidelity are more about your own insecurities than they are about cheating. What specifically is going on in this dream?

Points to ignore when being cheated on:

Your partner's lack of attention may bring on a dream that your partner is having an affair. You begin to believe that they are focused on someone else because they are not paying attention to you. Maybe the person you're dating works longer hours travel more or spends more time exercising. Everything is innocent, but your dreaming mind perceives time spent apart from you as an affair.

A fear of abandonment is indicated by being cheated on:

The fear of being abandoned is also indicated by dreams in which your partner, spouse, or other significant other is unfaithful to you. If your significant other won't be there for you in the future, you'll be worried. Maybe you're awaiting your significant other's commitment. Such dreams frequently happen due to having been abandoned by an ex, a parent, or another significant figure in your life in the past.

Low self-esteem is a sign of being cheated on:

You might dream that your lover is cheating on you if you feel unworthy, inadequate, or like you don't live up to other's expectations of you. You don't think your partner should stay with you because you don't feel good about yourself. In your dream, think about the person your significant other is seeing. Are you of the opinion that this person is superior to you in some way? Are they more attractive, more attractive, thinner, richer, smarter, etc.?

Lack of trust is demonstrated by being cheated:

In a relationship, trust is a crucial component. You might express doubt in the relationship if that trust has been violated. One of these doubts might appear in the form of an adulterous dream.

Actual cheating is implied by being cheated:

Rarely your dream of being unfaithful could refer to relationship cheating. Your subconscious may be picking up on cues or hints that suggest your significant other is not being entirely honest or is not fully committed to the relationship, but you may be oblivious to them. Or maybe you've been hiding the infidelity from yourself.

Having a dream in which you cheat:

Dreaming that you are having an affair suggests that you are feeling guilty and betrayed by yourself. Your integrity or beliefs have been compromised. Sometimes, cheating may not have anything to do with your relationship but rather with a previous instance of your dishonesty or cheating.

Alternatively, your affair with someone else could be related to a quality about that person that you need to accept or incorporate into your character. For instance, if you are cheating on your partner with your boss, the dream might represent your desire for authority, control, and power.

Cheating in your dreams may also signify that you are exploring different aspects of your sexuality and that your sexual passion is intense. In this case, the dream might act as a confirmation of your commitment to your union. It's not unusual to dream about having sex with someone other than your intended spouse if you are getting close to your wedding date. A similar dream signifies the youth of your sexual passion. It's important to understand that such a dream does not necessarily portend wandering or indicate that the person you are with is the wrong choice.

Your significant other may not be meeting your needs, according to yet another interpretation of your infidelity from a dream. You begin to look in other directions as a result. You have a sense that there is something more to be found.

What to Do If You Have Cheating Dreams

You can follow these steps if you have dreams about cheating.

Keep a dream diary

In order to preserve your dreams, it can be helpful to keep a journal by your bed and record them as soon as you wake up. Try to remember as many specifics as you can about your dreams, including the people, the situations, the sensations, and the emotions you felt.

Keeping a dream journal can help you not only remember your dreams but also identify patterns in them and spot recurring ideas and emotions. You may also have the chance to consider your dreams while you are awake and explore your feelings regarding them.

Choose if you want to tell your partner.

You might be concerned about whether or not to share your dream with your partner if you're in a committed relationship.

Even if you didn't actually consider cheating, you might still feel bad. You might be concerned about how your partner will react because they might assume you are fantasizing about someone else or consider cheating on them and become upset or angry with you.

As some partners may feel threatened by this dream material, we advise making your decision based on the dynamics of your relationship. It's more crucial that you investigate your interpretation of the dream than that you tell your partner about it.

If the person is someone you know, it may be even trickier because it may change not only the dynamics between you and the person but also the dynamics between you and your partner. Your partner might become hostile to them or feel threatened by them. It is clarified, though, that having a dream about someone you know doesn't always imply that you find them attractive or that you want to date them.

Take Therapy

Seeking therapy can be beneficial if your dream has disturbed you and you need assistance processing the emotions it has triggered. It can also be beneficial if your dream keeps happening and you want to understand what is causing it.

Therapy is a helpful tool for exploring your emotions and drawing meaning from your dreams. Additionally, it can give you the coping mechanisms you need to manage the conflicts better your subconscious mind is attempting to resolve.


Even though dreams about infidelity are rarely about actual infidelity, it is still critical to deal with the emotions that gave rise to the dream. In order for a personal relationship to advance, feelings of abandonment, insecurity, and mistrust must be addressed and discussed. It's time to lower your guard and start a conversation with your significant other.


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